Blaming effectively, and with gratitude

Have you ever been in a situation where, at the time, you think it's the worst thing that could ever possibly happened to you?

I know know I have.

Have you also heard the story of the butterfly struggle? Let me clarify it for you, if you were to try to help a butterfly when it's in its cocoon to exit its cocoon you may not only harm the butterfly but it likely won't live for the rest of the day. You see, it needs to struggle in order to survive. If it doesn't build those muscles in the struggle it will not continue survive and be able to do what it needs to do in order to flap it’s wings. And if it can't flap it’s wings, it will not be able to go find the nectar from the flowers that it needs to survive.
We all need struggle to make us stronger. This is how we build up muscle by doing repetitions of one thing (some of us call it exercise—but whatever it is that is working on muscles is struggle). For the butterfly, I am certain that if it had a functioning brain, that could give gratitude, it would to the cocoon, for causing the struggle that was necessary to survive.
For me, I know that some of my struggle

There was a time that I thought that my life was going to end up very different today. I thought at that time that I was going to be living in Banff Alberta Canada for the rest of my life. I had what I thought was everything I needed for my life. I had a girlfriend, a beautiful place to live, a great dog, a steady job and lots of places to go and recreate and have fun! I didn't want for anything at that time. Then my world came to a crashing halt when my girlfriend at the time decided that she would have an abortion  without letting me know. This is the point where I thought the situation that happened was the worst that could possibly happen to me. I was wrong. I would like to thank her for doing what she did, and I am sure that it took courage to listen to her inner voice.
As a result of the situation, and I reassessed what was important to me and I was able to move forward. If it weren't for that situation, I wouldn't have all that I have today! I met my wife directly after that relationship and I'm happy to say that we've been excitedly and extremely happily married for 14 years since that time. We have two beautiful children, a new dog and we are living where want to live and building the life we want to live! Noe of this would have been possible it had not been for that one event, that at the time, I thought was the worst thing that happened to me. Looking back in hindsight it was the best possible thing that I could've asked for. It is like the phoenix rising from the ashes, if tragedy befalls you, just know that opportunity is waiting for you!
The way that we react to any situation will always dictate how we feel about it. I wonder if there is a similar situation in your life that you may benefit from blaming and thanking that person that hurt or changed your life for the better?
This exercise can help us to reframe some of our problems to make them into our strengths. If you want to strengthen your business, then there is likely a time when you need to work on blaming effectively the people that have helped shape who you are today. If you are not in the situation that you want and you have settled, is there anyone that you should be blaming and thanking? (Hint—it’s you!)
So my challenge to you would be to make this upcoming year the best one of your life, by re-connecting with whatever gives you passion and thank whomever it was that you held a grudge against, because without them, you would not be where you are today.